As we understand how our body responds with protective mechanisms, we can shift focus toward healing. Read on to discover how working with our protector parts and inviting our hurt parts into compassionate dialogue can unlock transformative healing.
Healing with Somatic Parts Work
In Somatic Parts Work, we recognize that protector parts, although they may create tension or resistance in the body, are actually very intelligent and necessary mechanisms that were developed at some point to keep us safe. The goal of working with them is not to “eliminate” them but bring our curious attention and appreciation to them for their service. As we listen without any agenda to change them they begin to soften their hold and their tight grip of control.
By bringing awareness and compassion to these parts, we invite them to shift their protective strategies and allow us to heal, grow, and live with more freedom and authenticity. It’s a gradual process of learning to work with these protector parts, rather than fighting against them. When they feel understood and respected, they are more likely to relax their grip, and our true selves can begin to emerge more fully. This is a deeply transformative process that begins with connecting to the body’s sensations. It starts with curiosity—a gentle inquiry into the present moment. Rather than trying to change or fix anything, we begin by inviting the Protector Parts into dialogue. We seek to understand them without judgment, recognizing that their role was essential at some point in our lives. We acknowledge their role, and in doing so, we create the space for new possibilities to emerge—possibilities that are more aligned with our current reality, not the reality of a child.
Once the protectors soften, the work often shifts to the Hurt Parts—the most vulnerable aspects of ourselves that have been buried beneath layers of fear and shame. Hurt parts often feel abandoned and exiled, locked away in the shadows of our subconscious. These parts are often held in the more sensitive areas of the body—such as the belly, chest, and throat—and they yearn to be seen, loved, and valued for who they truly are.
The Hurt Parts carry the pain of rejection, of being told who we should be to be accepted. They are like birds whose wings have been clipped to stay in a cage. And yet, when we embrace these parts—just as Matt Kahn so beautifully says, “By embracing your innocence more than anyone has ever dared to embrace it, you find the parent you never met, a best friend you never knew you had, and the lover who has been there all along…”—This begins to unlock a deep, transformative healing.
This healing is gentle work. It may involve breath, attuned touch, and compassionate listening. In creating a safe, nourishing space, we allow the hurt parts to feel safe enough to return to the present moment. This compassionate witnessing creates the shift that allows these parts to reintegrate into our lives with a new sense of peace and acceptance.
Healing with somatic parts work centers on both respecting our protective mechanisms and compassionately embracing the Hurt Parts. Next, you can learn to integrate these insights into “The Path to Wholeness.”
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